I might be pregnant

If you think you have already missed a period, or there is another physical symptom which makes you think you might be pregnant, it is very easy to find out for sure. If you would like to come in for a free pregnancy test call us now, or you may prefer to purchase one for yourself at a chemist or supermarket. Even if doing a test at home, you may find it helpful to have someone with you.

A positive result is extremely reliable; a negative result may well be correct, but there is the possibility that the test might be too early.

If you are within 72 hours of having unprotected sex and do not want to be pregnant, the 'morning after pill’ is an option. This can be obtained from a local chemist; timing is critical.

I've just found out I'm pregnant

This news can bring with it a mixture of feelings and emotions. Talking to someone you know and trust as soon as possible is very important and might help you feel better straight away. You could also come and see us to talk things through. You can bring your partner or a close friend with you. 

Whatever you are feeling, you do have time to think about what to do next. Call us to make an appointment if you'd like to speak to a member of our team.

My partner is pregnant

If this is the news you really did not want to hear or you are not in agreement about the action to take, then you have a challenging time ahead. Take things slowly with your partner: this will not get sorted in just one conversation!

If you or your partner are considering abortion, then it is particularly important that you don't rush but think very carefully and look at all the options. You could make a decision you later regret. It is common for men in this position to offer to support their partner in whichever decision they choose. It is important that the woman does not feel it is being left solely to her but that it is a joint decision. The choice has implications for you both. Maybe your partner would want to have a chance to talk over her feelings with you – and to find out about yours. It is a sad fact that some women, not altogether sure of their own feelings or the father’s, have an abortion expressly to keep the relationship.

You can make an appointment to talk together to a member of our team, or you are very welcome to come in on your own.

 

My teenage daughter is pregnant

As a parent, you feel strongly about what happens to your child. If you have discovered that your teenage daughter is pregnant you may be experiencing a wide range of conflicting emotions. These emotions will have an impact on your relationship with your daughter as she also reacts to the news of her pregnancy. It is potentially a difficult and volatile time for you both. It is important to remember that she will need your strong support and reassurance of your love for her, as well as a listening ear. Pressurising her into a decision could damage her relationship with you.

You will be better able to support your daughter at this difficult time if you yourself feel supported. Make sure you have people around you who care about you – perhaps a friend who has been through a similar crisis.

Call us to arrange a relaxed, informative chat with a member of our team, for yourself, your daughter or both of you together.

 

I've had an abortion

Perhaps, as you're reading this, you have not found your abortion brought the sense of relief that you thought it would. Perhaps you feel you were pressurised into your decision. Maybe you really believed it was right for you, in order to get your life back on track. You may be confused by the emotions you are feeling and you have not found it as easy as you thought to pick up where you left off.

Post-abortion problems are difficult to talk about. However, many turning to agencies such as ourselves, are relieved to discover the support and help offered. This enables them to face and deal with certain feelings and emotions, and equips them to move on.

Please do get in touch if you would like to talk.

 

I've had a miscarriage

If you and your partner have suffered the loss of your baby by miscarriage you will have been through a difficult time. Everyone is different: not everyone is affected by grief in the same way - or for the same length of time. Most experience deep sadness as a result of their loss, sometimes leading to depression; some find themselves getting angry. Women often feel irrational guilt for what has happened; a man commonly feels a sense of helplessness - especially as he tries to comfort his partner. Physical symptoms, such as sleep or appetite disturbance, are also very common.

An early miscarriage is particularly difficult as friends are possibly unaware you were ever pregnant; a later one brings the pain of disappointment that you have never held your baby in your arms, the baby you had begun to love and care for.

Everyone's experience is different. Many turning to agencies such as ourselves, are relieved to discover the support and help offered. This enables them to face and deal with certain feelings and emotions, and equips them to move on.

Please do get in touch if you would like to talk.

 

My IVF has failed

You may feel that you have tried everything, maybe you have spent a lot of money, there have been many times when you thought things were about to happen …. yet now, months or even years down the road you are back where you started.

If you and your partner are in this position, things can feel very bleak indeed: everywhere you look someone is pushing a pram. Life can feel bitterly unfair. Your relationship can feel under pressure as you and your partner respond differently. However, it is possible to move on and experience life in its fullness once again.

If at the moment this seems impossible to you, talking to a member of our team might be the first step in a new direction.

Please do get in touch if you would like to talk.